I also wanted to say, this goes along with my last post about being thankful......I know we (there) are alot of us that are in terrible need, but look around, are your kids healty, is your loved one by your side? Life can throw so many REALLY bad things in your way that devestate your total exsistance..........be thankful for what you have now, and pray it never gets worse!!
This morning as I read the latest post from Michaels sister I felt compelled to come on here and ask for prayers! From the posts I have tried to keep up with on his sisters facebook page, he had two collapsed lungs, and no brain activity. He is doing better, per her posts, but they need all the prayers they can get!! His name is Michael A. Hawley.
I got the info below off his sister (Teresa) facebook, I will gladly send you the link to her facebook page if you would like to read through it. I am not sure if she has it open to the public, but if you send her a friend request and tell her "Jennifer Potts Browning" sent you, she will remember me and allow you on.
A fund has been set up for Michael at Community Bank. You can make donations at any location or by mail. The account is:
Pamela Comer in benefit of Michael A. Hawley
P.O. Box 270
Amory, Ms. 38821
I have been reading your posts and no offense but it seems that you are always asking for a lot of stuff for free but not really doing anything to try to earn some money for yourself, other then assistance. Why don't you stop spending so much time on the computer and try doing something worthwhile with your life for your children sake. There is nothing wrong with getting help when needed, but I think it is pathetic to post about how to get a bunch of free stuff from the hospital, especially saying that when the nurses change shifts to ask for more. Do you not realize that other people need that stuff as well. You cant expect everything for free, you must work for the things you need. And how is child protection not involved if you are living in a house that should be condemned? I understand not having money, I have been there, but that is no way for a child to live, and especially a new born baby. I am surprised that they didn't take your children if what you say is true. They have certainly taken children for much less. I am not trying to be mean but after reading your profile and all your posts, it seemed that you need to get your priorities figured out.
Hello Aidpage readers-
I have met MANY soon-to-be-new-mommy's, and even experianced mommy-to-be's that don't know about this stuff. When you go into a hospital to have your child, your hospital stay covers everything you and your new bundle of joy needs. I encourage you to request any or ALL the things you and your baby need/will-need from this list of things the hospital will give you,offer you,or they have you just need to ask for.
If by any chance you need socks, a robe or PJ's you can request "slipper-socks" at the hospital, "scrubs", and a robe. When I had my daughter I left the hospital with 4 pairs of "Slipper socks", pj's (they were like scrubs) and a robe. They arent fancy but they are comfy.(And trust me after giving birth you really won't care how you look, as long as you are comfy.) I also left with MANY things I needed for afterbirth,nursing & for my child.
If your going to nurse remember to ask for a breast pump, they will give you a hand-pump, which will help you until you can get an electric one, or if you like the manual then it didn't cost you anything.(Your insurance will already cover it.) If you are going to nurse then remember to ask for storage bottles, they will give you a few of them.(Which is very helpfull, and nice to have.) Remmeber to request nursing pads, and nipple cream too.
If you are going to bottle feed they will give you ready-feed formula bottles. Remember to ask for more formula,they will gladly give you more.(Put it in your hospital bag, or diaper bad & stock up.)Trust me formula is EXPENSIVE, and you will use ALOT of it over the first year of your childs life, if you don't nurse.)
You will get a diaper bag with coupons and a couple samples ready-to-feed formula in it. At the hospital they will provide you with a package of diapers, wipes (generally dry-wipes because it is the best choice on a newborn baby), a thermometer, vasoline, a baby comb,baby wash, and baby lotion. You can ask your nuse to bring you more diapers,wipes,baby wash, and lotion.
For yourself they should give you a "mommy bag",it should have pads, a squirt bottle (its not a squirt bottle you drink out of), disposible underware,nursing pads,shampoo, bodywash,combs,tooth brush, and tooth paste. If you don't get one, ask for one.However some hospitals don't have them but they DO have ALL the contents that I listed that is in one. Any of this stuff you can request more of, and I recommend that you do get as much pads and stuff that you need as you can get.
When your nurses switch shifts is a good time to ask for more things you & your baby will need. I recommend you write a list and hand it to your nurse---thats what I did. Don't worry about asking for too much your insurance covers your whole stay and everything you and baby needs so you might as well get everything you and your baby are intitled to. Trust me you will truely be thankfull that you did ask for everything,and stock up.
Sorry if this is a duplicate. Due to hospital bills for unexpected emergencies, 2 kids, loss of job...I find myself in an unexpected place. I currently owe $8000, but don't have anywhere to turn. No family left. I think of the years I helped people out. I don't have any way to guarantee the repayment of this money. But if you are in a place to help someone out, know that my entire family will be eternally greatful. I'm really reaching the end of my rope. Suicide has entered my mind seriously, and that scares me. I feel like there is no one to turn to, no where to go. I hope this is temporary but with the economy, I am in despair. If you have the ability to help us out, God Bless You.
Let's say some Joe Blow walks into the emergency room because he has no insurance, and they find out he has cancer or some other serious illness that requires a lot of care and treatments.
What happens? Does the hospital say "Sorry, but you have no insurance or money so we don't want to give you these expensive treatments that you need, so you are out of luck" Guy says "But I will die without them! " Hospital -"Sorry no can do without the money"
Or does the hospital give them a little "bandage type" treatment but not the comprehensive treatment they need and then sends them on their way.
Perhaps the hospital decides not to tell him he has cancer at all!
Or will the Joe Blow get the treatment and the hospital bills them but knows they won't get paid.
Our health care system is definitely broken.
Although there is currently a big controversy going on right now with the President and Congress, most would agree that Americans need a Change in the Healthcare Industry.
In the meantime, it is Americans and our children that are suffering.
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That is fine, if you see that you can make the actual minimum payment due. I am, of course not, saying that you should totally skip out on your obligations to pay a debt.
What i am trying to clarify here, is the fact, that any type of payment is legal, and certainly better than none at all.
I mean, look at how many people are literally starving, in order, to keep their bills paid. Many of them do not know how to deal with phone collection agencies, and just like a certain 80 year old man, that i talked to recently, he feels terroized by the calls. He quicly gives in, just to make them happy.
True enough, you can report them by calling certain places. But the sad fact is, the credit collections and other companies still use these tactics, even though they are illegal.
By Anonymous - on Aug 18, 2009
Posted in shirleybill
I disagree with some of your post.
Yes, you should pay the necessities first: mortgage, car note, insurance, utilities, groceries, etc...
However, when it comes to credit cards and hospital bills, while you do have legal rights, they vary from state to state. No, they cannot threaten, harass, insult, etc to get you to pay more - that is illegal in any state and you can file a complaint with the state attorney general's office.
As a matter of fact, the NYS attorney general has cracked down on collection agencies in Buffalo and is in the process of closing them.
As for hospital bills, contact the hospital business office - they can usually make adjustments, payment arrangements, and sometimes even write the bill off altogether depending on your insurance/financial circumstances.
As for credit cards, again, make the minimum payment to the credit card company - if possible. If it is a debt collection agency, you can sometimes still make payments to the original company ( depending on how old the debt is) other times the debt may have been sold to the collection agency and therefore you are liable for the balance to the agency. Again, contact your state attorney general for the correct information on how to work with a collection agency.
Always keep track of payments made, who you talked to, when you talked to them, and what was said. If you can record the conversation - even better!
Finally, never, EVER rely on a "system" to clear up your credit! You hear advertisements for proven systems to reduce or eliminate your debt overnight - SCAM!!!!
If you ever see an ad for a "proven system" for anything - walk away -don't waste your money - the only one making money in that situation is the person selling the system...
They will never accept your proposal on the phone. They are more interested in getting all the money they can. They will even go as far, as insulting, threatening, and anything else, just to get you to pay out more, than you can afford to.
You can actually pay the mininum amount due, if you can afford to. Many of the people have shown that they are running into trouble by using that method, and leaving themselves with little to no cash.
However, by state law, if a company accepts a payment from you, regardless of the amount, then you have in all good faith made a payment. It is essential to keep your receipts and payment stubs showing any and all payments that you have made.
If you make a payment, and they refuse the payment, you have rights, under the law. Keep all letters, including the returned check or money order. You will need this as proof, that your payment was indeed rejected.
I disagree with the credit card info they will not take less than the minimum amount
Even Suze Orman changed her views and said better to pay minimun amount and have cash on hand in the bank. But cc companies are reducing the rate available if you don't pay it off.
As unlikely as it may seem, there are ways around those old bills, that seem to keep popping up, and bothering you constantly.
First, consider paying, only the bills that are the most important, such as your house note, utility bills, car note, insurance.
If a bill comes in that is a credit card bill, hospital bill, etc., send only what you can. Do not send the minimum amount, since this will run you short on your money. Send them what you can afford to send. Even if it is just a dollar a month, if they accept it, then you are in good standing. If they refuse it, be sure to keep the letter of refusal, along with the payment showing where you attempted to make the payment. Keep those documents together. When it comes down to it, and you show proof of trying to make a payment, and honor your obligations, then the courst, credit bereau, and anyone else, will have to stand with you, since you will have documented proof.
Thank you for your cards regarding the passing of my father. He was a great man. To update you his death is being investigated. He passed on March 27, 2009. Marty Mandato's memorial website is at www.mem.com and donations towards his funeral costs are being accepted by my oldest sister at paypal accound acesmk@comcast.net . He lost everything in the recession and there was no life insurance policy.
He was a man of strength. I used to joke that he wasn't quite right until the last girl got married... He is survived by his three daughters and two sons, multiple grandchildren and great grandchildren, and two brothers. He is pre-deceased by his son, Frank. His obituary was run in the local papers of boyersville, PA and in Philadelphia PA.
Thank you for responding i have already called the offices and they said i am already lateand can't hold it any longer.Thanks for some other options i never even had thought about clothes and etc. you will never know how much that meant to me. take care and may God bless you in everyway.
Call the companies on your bills and explain what is going to happen - they may be able to move your due dates or help you out in other ways. Check out your local Craig's List website or Freecycle site for free items. You can also post requests for specific items and sizes. Also check out the Angel Food Ministries website for affordable groceries, and see if there are other food pantries in your area. You can also read over my page on gettin gstuff for free and raising cash fast. Hope that helps! Best wishes, Rosie
My name is Stephanie I am currently not working. My boyfriend is the only one in our family that is right now. My problem is that on April 10th he is going to have surgery. This will cause him to miss work for about three weeks. That means we will have no income coming in whats so ever. We have a thirteen year old. During this time we are going to get behind on our bills about $1500.00 and when he does go back to work we will be struggling to get afloat. If anybody out there ca help with food, clothes, and etc. please email me. For we will not have the money to buy it I will go to one food supply here but only get one box not much in it and not enough to last three weeks. I have tried to get on Food stamps but they say my boyfriend maes to much 200.00 a week thats not alot when you take out for all your bills. I will be praying for everyone that needs help and hope they get it. So if everyone will pray for us I would greatly appreciate it. My email address is bamagirl2978@netzero.com And for those out there willing to help in some way whether by praying or for helping thank you. God Bless Everyone
i have used this hospital for my oldest son after he broke is leg playing football six years ago .he had to have three major surgeys and his leg is still not fixed right.he needs more surgery but he is 19 years old now and i cant make him have anymore done.but shriners hospital took wonderful care of him while he was there.they made sure we had everything we needed while we were there.they are one of the best place to donate to.i always buy there paper and donate to there boots.
I just came home from the hospital a few days ago, and hopefully will be returning to work. I've out of work for a month, and needless to say... nothing has gotten paid. As much as I'm happy to be home, I can't help but to feel gloomy. Once again I'm thrusted back into a situation on feeling helpless financially. At least when I'm hooked up to monitors and i.v.'s the only thing I can think about is getting better. When I'm home, however... it's another story.
When I'm home I have to worry about if I'll make rent this month, when I'll be able to afford to get my power and water back on... how much more time my boss will give me off if I get sick again before they just get sick of me.
I just wish my parents were still around. Things always seem just a bit easier when your parents are around.
Thank you so much to everyone that has sent me links while I've been away.
What a year. This has been the most stressful year ever. My mother has gone mad, literally. I had to have her legally comitted to a mental hospital. Not a great place but with me about to have a baby and with 2 other kids, I didn't have a choice. I am in my ninth month of pregnancy. We were surprised earlier this year to find out we are pregnant. We weren't having anymore kids but I guess another one was in the cards for us. The economy isn't helping us and our mortgage has just gone up about $300 a month. I haven't been able to work because of the pregnany and my mom, so we are behind to put it lightly. The pregnancy is not covered by our self pay insurance. I am grateful to have insurance but because of our deductible, we don't go when we should. Today I went to the Dr. for by bi-weekly non-stress test. It is to check the heart rate of the baby. My OB-GYN had open heart surgery on Monday. I still haven't paid the hospital bill. My blood pressure is up, so I had to get blood work, which I didn't pay for either. It makes me dizzy. I tried to tell the new doctor that my pressure was probably due to stress but he wants to make sure I am not heading toward toxemia. I finally ate my pride and asked my step-MIL to borrow the money for the hospital. She said I would have to ask my FIL. He is sort of mean and I don't want him to make me cry, so I just couldn't bring myself to do it. I was already emotional from having to ask for the money in the first place. He will most likely say no, anyway. My dad could help me but he won't. It drives me nuts because I never ask him for anything. He acts like I was this terrible child and I wasn't. I was so good. I really wanted him to be proud and I really tried not to embarrass him. He was embarrassed of me anyway. I have always been just a little overweight (10 - 20 pounds) and it drives him nuts. He makes up stories to tell people about how bad we were as kids. Now that I am pregnant and big, he is humiliated. What really suck is, so am I. He acts like he has always had to bail us out. It's not true. I paid for college myself. I have always worked and worked hard. I never asked for anything. Right now, he is on a hunting trip in N. Dakota. I hope he bags a big one. If I wasn't pregnant, I would get a job in a second and work doubles until we were out of this mess. I have been so stressed out and it is showing with my kids. I need to pull out of this but it seems like we have been just scraping along for so long now. I feel like I am ready to give up. Of course, I can't. I have great kids and one coming. I am so lucky, my husband loves me and works so hard, but I feel so helpless right now.
If someone is willing to lend me some cash, please respond. I can pay you back when we sell some property we have. We just reduced the price dramatically so maybe it will happen soon.
I didn't want to bring this baby into the world while I am so stressed out. I hate it for my other kids. I know it doesn't help them to see me like this. I hate being like this. I have always been very positive but this year has been a test.
Need help paying hospital bill for labor and delivery. If I can pay 2 weeks before delivery, cost is $2,500, after that it skyrockets. My husband is working so hard to get the money up but we have to pay our living expenses. My due date is December 1st and I am hoping, at this point, the baby will be late. I have not pre-registered at the hospital yet because I have no $$$ to give them. I am so sorry that we are having to put the kids through this. And a new one to boot. I willl pay back the money asap.
TO: CLARIAN HEALTH PARTNERS INC. FR: Northern Mindanao Medical Center Cagayan de Oro City, Philippines I am just an ordinary citizen who comes to Northern Mindanao Medical Center (a government hospital) every now and then just to be able to help the less fortunate in the best way I can, by comforting them, providing them their needs if I have the resources. This hospital is a government tertiary hospital with a 300-bed capacity. However, every day there are more than 300 in patients admitted leaving the patients with no other option than to use and consider the corridors of the hospital to stay just so they can be given immediate medical attention. Considering the lack of funds from the government, I would like to seek help from your foundation in any way you can to help expand, develop or whatever you can do to the hospital. Should you want to inquire and get more information, please contact DR. RAMON MORENO, OIC-Chief Medical Professional Staff of Northern Mindanao Medical Center (+638822) 721282 or cell number (+639178410322). I am optimistic that through writing this letter to your organization, it will pave the doorway for you to be interested in helping develop our government hospital. From a concerned citizen: Grace E. Mercado-Garanchon Cagayan de Oro City, Philippines
TO: SHRINERS HOSPITAL FOR CHILDREN FR: Northern Mindanao Medical Center Cagayan de Oro City, Philippines I am just an ordinary citizen who comes to Northern Mindanao Medical Center (a government hospital) every now and then just to be able to help the less fortunate in the best way I can, by comforting them, providing them their needs if I have the resources. This hospital is a government tertiary hospital with a 300-bed capacity. However, every day there are more than 300 in patients admitted leaving the patients with no other option than to use and consider the corridors of the hospital to stay just so they can be given immediate medical attention. Considering the lack of funds from the government, I would like to seek help from your foundation in any way you can to help expand, develop or whatever you can do to the hospital. Should you want to inquire and get more information, please contact DR. RAMON MORENO, OIC-Chief Medical Professional Staff of Northern Mindanao Medical Center. I am optimistic that through writing this letter to your organization, it will pave the doorway for you to be interested in helping develop our government hospital. From a concerned citizen: Grace E. Mercado-Garanchon Cagayan de Oro City, Philippines
TO: ST JOSEPHS MEDICAL CENTER FR: Northern Mindanao Medical Center Cagayan de Oro City, Philippines I am just an ordinary citizen who comes to Northern Mindanao Medical Center (a government hospital) every now and then just to be able to help the less fortunate in the best way I can, by comforting them, providing them their needs if I have the resources. This hospital is a government tertiary hospital with a 300-bed capacity. However, every day there are more than 300 in patients admitted leaving the patients with no other option than to use and consider the corridors of the hospital to stay just so they can be given immediate medical attention. Considering the lack of funds from the government, I would like to seek help from your foundation in any way you can to help expand, develop or whatever you can do to the hospital. Should you want to inquire and get more information, please contact DR. RAMON MORENO, OIC-Chief Medical Professional Staff of Northern Mindanao Medical Center (+638822) 721282 or cell number (+639178410322). I am optimistic that through writing this letter to your organization, it will pave the doorway for you to be interested in helping develop our government hospital. From a concerned citizen: Grace E. Mercado-Garanchon Cagayan de Oro City, Philippines
TO: KAISER FOUNDATION HOSPITAL
FR: Northern Mindanao Medical Center
Cagayan de Oro City, Philippines
I am just an ordinary citizen who comes to Northern Mindanao MEdical Center (a government hospital) every now and then just to be able to help the less fortunate in the best way I can, by comforting them, providing them their needs if I have the resources. This hospital is a government tertiary hospital with a 300 bed capacity. However, every day there are more than 300 in patients admitted leaving the patients with no other option than to use the corridors of the hospital to stay just so they can be given immediate medical attention. Considering the lack of funds from the government, I would like to seek help from your foundation in any way you can to help expand, develop or whatever you can do to the hospital. Should you want to inquire and get more information, please contact DR. RAMON MORENO, OIC- Chief Medical Professional Staff of Northern Mindanao Medical Center. I would like to be of help to the hospital through writing letters to any organizations who may be take interest in helping develop our government hospital.
From a concerned citizen:
Grace Mercado-Garanchon
Cagayan de Oro City, Philippines
Hi., My name is Rob Wells I am in a situation I've never been in before and it couldn't have come at a worse time. My new baby girl (17 days old today) has a daddy who lost his job because he was at the hospital to much during the pregnancy because my wife was at a high risk because she had problems in the past. I got doctors notes for me to give to work but that did not help me, so I found myself in a catch 22 situation, I have to work to take care of my family but I also need to be with my wife to take care of her! I have all the rest of my bills taken care of I just need 1000.00 for my rent so I can have a safe and secure home for my family.If there is anyway someone is able to help I would be forever grateful and I would repay this when I can. Thank You. Rob.
By tara34 - on Jul 24, 2007... modified on Jul 29, 2007
Posted in tara34
THE NEXT DAY CAME....TRYING TO CONVINCE MYSELF THAT I COULD STAND UP AND BE STRONG FOR MY SON, TY.HE DEFINITELY NEEDED ME TO BE. I HAD BEEN UP THE REMAINDER OF THE NITE WATCHING HIM SLEEP ON THAT PULL-IN COT. I WAS SO TERRIFIED. I DIDNT EVEN BELIEVE THAT THIS COULD ALL BE HAPPENING TO ME. BUT THERE WASNT MUCH TIME TO FIGURE OUT DETAILS OR CONCLUDE ANYTHING. TY WAS BEGINNING TO MOVE AROUND, AND I REALIZED HOW WONDERFUL IT WAS TO SEE AT LEAST 1 BABY TURN OUT OK. THANK GOD HE HAD DECIDED TO STAY BEHIND, AT THE NIEGHBORS. THE SECOND MORNING WAS JUST AS BAD AS THE FIRST. I DIDNT KNOW WHAT I WAS EVEN DOING FOR WEEKS. DON HAD TO GUIDE ME THROUGH EVERY MOTION. SEE, TIF HAD TO GO TO A SEPERATE HOSPITAL, BECAUSE OF HER AGE, AND THREE TRAUMAS AT A TIME, PRIMARY CHILDRENS TOOK THE TWOO BABIES, AND TIF WAS AT A DIFF HOSPITAL. SO MY DAYS WERE SOUNDING LIKE; TARA, WE HAVE TO GOT TO TRISTINS HOSP. YOU HAVE TO SIGN A TRANSFUSION RELEASE....HEY TARA, WE HAVE TO SEE TIF, ANOTHER SURGERY RELEASE, BACK TO TRISTINS, HIS SWELLING WORSENED, BACK TO TIF; .....YOU GET THE IDEA. A HORRIBLE NITEMARE FOR ANYONE. (AND STILL TODAY, I PRAY EVERYDAY FOR ALL MOMS. NO ONE SHOULD EVER GO THROUGH THAT. I PRAY FOR ALL KIDS, THE ABILITY TO SMILE.)
I USE TO THINK THAT IT WAS A WEAK SUGGESTION WHEN I WOULD HEAR PEOPLE SAY, "TAKE IT DAY BY DAY". AT THAT MOMENT IN MY LIFE, I WAS STRUGGLING FOR MINUTE BY MINUTE. AND STILL DON WAS CONSTANTLY SAYING, TARA, BREATHE...UR NOT BREATHING." HOW I WISH I COULD TAKE BACK MY COMMENTS THAT MIGHT HAVE MADE THAT ONE PERSON FEEL LIKE A QUITTER, INSTEAD OF SURVIVING DAY TO DAY. I FEEL AWFUL ABOUT THAT TO THIS DAY. AND I PROUDLY ADMIT THAT AS OF RIGHT NOW, I HAVE GRADUATED UP TO DAY BY DAY.
AS WEEKS WENT BY, TIF GOT TO GO HOME. I STAYED WITH TRISTIN, AND TY , WHO WAS STAYING WITH FRIENDS,ALONG WITH DON, BROUGHT TIF HOME. THE DRS SAID IT WOULD BE ABOUT 6 MONTHS BEFORE SHE COULD START TO WALK AGAIN. LITTLE DO THEY KNOW MY CHILDREN. I HAVE THE STRONGEST MINDED, BRAVEST KIDS IN THE WORLD. TIF WANTED TO FINISH UP THE LAST COUPLE OF WEEK OF SCHOOL.8th GRADE.SHE COULD ONLY START OFF A HALF OF A DAY, IT WAS ALOT ON HER. 2nd PART OF THE DAY, SHE SPENT SLEEPING... IT REALLY WORE HER OUT. SHE BEGAN WALKING ON A CANE WITHIN 2 WEEKS, AND YOU COULD IMAGINE HOW WONDERFUL IT WAS TO WATCH HER WALK ACROSS THAT GYM STAGE AT HER 8TH GRADE GRADUATION.
MEANWHILE, TRISTIN AND I STARTED OUR ONE ON ONE THERAPY. I TALKED TO HIM ALL OF THE TIME. WHEN THEY TOLD ME HE WOULDNT EVER TRUELY WAKE UP, PANIC FLARED. BUT ONLY FOR A MINUTE OF TWO.I REMEMBERED WHO THEY WERE TALKING ABOUT. MY SON. MY SON!! ALTHOUGH I HAD BEEN SLAPPED IN THE FACE WITH THE REALIZATION THAT THE WORST POSSIBLE SITUATION COULD VERY WELL OCCUR, I HAD TO BELIEVE HE WOULD PULL THROUGH. IWAS PREPARED TO LIVE RIGHT THERE IN THAT HOSPITAL ROOM, IF NEEDS BE, FOR AS LONG OF A TIME PERIOD THAT TRISTIN NEEDED TO HEAL HISSELF. DRS SAY THAT IF SWELLING ON THE BRAIN DOESNT BEGIN TO DEMINISH AFTER 48 HOURS, CHANCES ARE BAD THAT THE PATIENT WILL RECOVER. 6 DAYS IN TO THIS NIGHTMARE OF AN ORDEAL, I WAS SITTING BY HIM, READING ELMO. I LOOKED UP AT HIS BROKEN UP LIL BODY, ALL IN A HALF BODY CAST, METAL BOLT IN HIS BRAIN, MACHINES ALL OVER HIM, I STOOD UP, AND KISSED HIS HEAD. THE BEST THAT I COULD. I REMEMBER BEGGING GOD TO LET ME KEEP HIM. THAT NIGHT, TRISTIN OPENED HIS EYES FOR THE FIRST TIME..........
HIS EXPRESSIONS ON HIS FACE MADE IT TOTALLY OBVIOUS THAT THERE WAS NO ONE THERE.(IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN.) LONG, COLD,BLANK STARE FOR THE NEXT TWO OR THREE DAYS. WE KNEW THAT HE COULD HEAR, BECAUSE HE WOULD TRY TO MOVE HIS HEAD WHEN I TALKED TO HIM.BUT IT WAS SO EASY TO OVERLOAD HIM, WE COULDNT HAVE LIGHT ON, OR SOUND. HE WAS FIGHTING THOUGH. A FEW MORE DAYS IN TO THIS UPHILL FIGHT, THEY HAD JUST CHANGED OUT HIS NG TUBE, AND OF COURSE, MEDICATED HIM. BUT AS I PUT IN A FAVORITE CARTOON OF HIS IN, HE LOOKED OVER AT ME, AND SAID,"BLUE"
HIS FIRST WORD!!!YOU COULDNT EVEN IMAGINE HOW EXCITED I WAS AT THAT GIVEN MOMENT. I NOW KNEW THAT HE COULD TALK, AT LEAST. ALSO, HE REMEMBERED THINGS FROM BEFORE, AND THAT HIS THOUGHT PROCESS WAS WORKING . AT WHAT EXTENT WAS TO BE DETERMINED LATER,AND STILL LATER FROM TODAY. THE BRAIN IS TRUELY AMAZING...................MORE TO COME.........
By tara34 - on Jul 29, 2007... modified on Jul 29, 2007
Posted in tara34
NOW THAT TRISTIN HAD MADE SUCH HUGE STRIDES IN HIS CONDITION, MY HEART COULD COME OUT OF MY THROAT. IT HAD BEEN TOUCH AND GO FOR SO LONG, THAT I THINK EVEY ONE HAD BEGAN TO LOSE FAITH. INCLUDING ME. I NOW KNEW THE FEELING OF "IT CAN HAPPEN TO YOU". IF YOU CAN UNDERSTAND THAT. I HAVE THIS OVERWHELMING FEELING OF GUILT THAT EATS AT ME CONSTANTLY. REASON?.....THE CHAPLAIN OF THE HOSPITAL HAD BEEN TELLING ME, OVER AND OVER, "DONT BLAME GOD FOR THIS." AND I ALWAYS REPLIED TO HIM," HOW CAN I BLAME THE ONE MAN- THAT I NEED MORE THAN ANYTHING RIGHT NOW. HE IS THE ONLY ONE THAT CAN SAVE THESE OTHERS" BUT I LATER CAME TO THE REALIZATION THAT THAT IS EXACTLY WHO I BLAMED. THERE WAS NO OTHER PERSON LEFT. THE FACT THAT THE OTHER DRIVER DIED AT THE SCENE, HAS MADE A TREMENDOUS DIFFERENCE TO ME. I SHOULD BE ASHAMED. BUT THE ANGER THAT A MOTHER FEELS, AFTER SHE LAYS THAT BABY'S PERFECT LITTLE BODY DOWN FOR THE VERY LAST TIME, IS MORE POWERFUL THAN I COULD EVEN ATTEMPT TO PUT INTO WORDS. THE FACT IS, I FOUND OUT THAT SHE WAS DRUGGED UP ON HER PRESCRIPTION PAIN PILLS. NOT TAKEN BY DOCTORS ORDERS. SHE HAD TAKEN ALOT MORE THAN THAT. AND I LOOKED DOWN, AS TRISTIN MUMBLED THOSE FIRST WORDS, AND I WAS EXCITED. THIS BEAUTIFUL BOY HAD JUST GIVEN US THE FIGHT OF HIS LIFE. AND MY PRECIOUS TAYTAY GONE FROM THIS EARTH.MY FULL-OF-LIFE MOTHER TAKEN FROM 7 REMAINING KIDS, 2 SISTERS, AND 43 GRANDCHILDREN, MY DAD, BIGGER THAN LIFE ITSELF, AND VERY MUCH STILL NEEDED HERE- WAS GONE FOREVER, AND TIF, STRUGGLING WITH THE FACT THAT SHE MAY NEVER HAVE CHILDREN. AND WHY? BECAUSE THAT WOMAN COULD NOT WAIT 10 MINUTES,(YES SHE WAS 10 MIN. AWAY FROM HER HOME). I KNOW FIRST HAND,.....RAGE IS A HORRIBLE FEELING. BUT I HAVE FELT IT. EVER SINCE.
BRINGING TRISTIN HOME WAS A BITTER SWEET MOMENT. THE END OF THE CRITICAL WATCH, BUT NOW, I WAS SCARED BEYOND IMAGINATION. I DIDNT HAVE ANYONE TO TURN TO. HERE THIS LITTLE HELPLESS BABY IS.....WRAPPED IN A HALF BODY CAST, NG TUBE COMING FROM HIS NOSE, AND AT THIS TIME, THE ONLY EMOTION HE HAS BACK IS RAGE, HIMSELF. THERE ARE NO OTHER WORDS FOR IT. IF THE TV WAS ON, AND THE SOUND WAS NOT MUTED....IT WOULD OVERLOAD HIS BRAIN. CAUSING THIS REACTION. HE COULD NOT CONTROL IT EITHER, SO I WOULD HAVE TO MIX HIS MEDS AND BASICALLY KNOCK HIM OUT. IT WAS SO EASY TO OVERLOAD HIM. NO VISITORS, NO SOUNDS COMING FROM THE HOUSE ALLOWED, NO SLEEPING UNLESS I HAD MEDICATED HIM. HE WENT 45 1/2 HOURS AT THE HOSPITAL ONCE BEFORE SEDATION. THEY WERE TESTING THAT, TO SEE IF HE COULD GO TO SLEEP ON HIS OWN.....NO, HE COULDNT. MONTHS OF ONE ON ONE WITH HIM, AND WHEN POSSIBLE, GET OUT THERE TO FIX DINNER, TEND TO TIF, AND TY, FOR THAT MATTER. AND I WILL TELL YOU SOMETHING. I WOULD DO IT ALL OVER AGAIN. I STILL THANK GOD EVEYDAY FOR WHAT HE HAS LET ME KEEP ON EARTH, HERE. AND I MISS MY LITTLE BABY GIRL, MORE AND MORE EVERYDAY. AFTER 6 WEEKS (LETS BACK IT UP A BIT) MY SECOND HUSBAND, TAYLOR AND TRISTINS DAD DECIDED HE COULDN'T HELP, NOR COULD HE COPE. ON MAY 19, 2006, HE KILLED HIMSELF.
WHERE DO YOU PUT ALL OF THIS EMOTION? WELL, I WILL TELL YOU WHAT I DID. AS I WAS STILL GOING MIN. BY MIN., I JUST KEPT BREATHING. I KEPT PRAYING. AND I KEPT ON TENDING TO MY BABIES. THATS WHAT I DID.
AS I MENTIONED IN A PREVIOUS CLIP, TIF HAD WENT BACK TO SCHOOL PARTTIME. SHE WAS IN HER WHEELCHAIR MOST OF THE TIME. WHEN IT CAME TO HER FIRST ORTHOPEDIC CHECK UP( BACK TO THE 2 1/2 MONTH-MARK),THE SURGEON SAYS FOR HER TO START PUTTING A LITTLE WIEGHT ON HER RIGHT SIDE AS SHE WALKED UP ONTO THE CANE--ONLY--. I THOUGHT I WAS GOING TO FAINT. I WAS SCARED FOR HER. AND OF COURSE, RIGHT ON TOP OF HER, IN CASE SHE WERE TO FALL.(THIS BEING AFTER SHE WALKED ACROSS THE STAGE W/ WALKER). SHE LOOKED OVER AT ME AND SAID THE MOST EYE OPENING WORDS I HAVE EVER HEARD......"MOM, STOP IT!! I AM NOT MADE OUT OF GLASS!!!"
THAT MOMENT WAS THE BIGGEST BURST OF REALITY I THINK I HAD HAD TO THAT DATE. I HAD HOVERED OVER THE KIDS TO A SMOTHERING STAGE. I DIDNT EVEN REALIZE IT, BUT IT WAS DEFINITELY AN EYE OPENER. THE REASON FOR THAT????? I DIDNT HAVE TO GRIEVE. I COULDNT BELIEV IT, BUT I HAD WENT STRAIGHT FROM GRIEVING DAUGHTER AND MOTHER, RIGHT INTO, CARETAKER, NURSEMAID, AND HAD BEEN HIDING BEHIND THESE KIDS SO THAT I DIDNT HAVE TO TRUELY FACE FACTS. AMAZING DISCOVERY, IT WAS. AND NOW I KNEW THE WORST EVENTS IN MY LIFE WOULD TAKE PLACE........more rantings later......tc
Mother of two, so behind on rent, I am being evicted next Friday if I cannot come up with the rent of 500 pounds. My children are three and one. My husband is in hospital and has no idea what is going on as I fear it may kill him. My bills seem never ending, there is no money to pay them, I dont know how it came to this. All I ask is for someone to help me pay my rent all my other bills can wait. I have nothing left not even my pride.
Hi ColoSinglemom
Just a few suggestions : Is it possible to negotiate for payment plans for your bills ?
Have you thought of using a place like Consumers Credit or another debt consolidation organization ?
Also , if you would like, please try my pages for single moms.
I hope something works soon !
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I am a single mother to a 6 month old baby girl. Her dad and I broke up before I found out I was pregnant, and he did not want me to keep the baby. I did anyway.
Since then, I have had nothing but financial trouble--I was too sick to work while I was pregnant. Then I lost most of my business (I'm in real estate). Then, I gave birth, and then, I had to stay home with the baby. I am just now finding affordable day care and starting to work again, but am faced with an IMMENSE amount of bills that I don't think I can dig my way out of.
The hospital bill is $14,500. My tax bill is $7,000 (I had that money saved, but used it for medical and baby expenses). My mortgage is $1400. My other bills add up to about $2000 per month--and I have only made $4,000.00 this year, plus a few hundred bucks in child support (the guy doesn't make much $$).
I don't know what to do. I am absolutely willing to work, but don't think I can make enough to dig us out. I don't want to have my home forclosed upon. I don't want to be in this situation, and it doesn't seem fair that just because I decided to KEEP a baby that suddenly, I am poor.
Anything anyone is willing to contribute would be greatly appreciated, and will most definitely not be forgotten. I WILL start making money again, and I will either pay back or pay forward anything I am given.
I've just been released from the hospital a few days ago, I had emergancy surgery and had an abscess infection removed, they sent me home with a 3 inch long and 2 inch deep open wound that a nurse has to come pack and clean everyday. I cannot work because of this, and have not been able to work since August. Im about to be evicted from my home, my electric and water are about to be shut off, i cant even afford food. I cannot qualify for government assistance because I dont know how long i'm going to be unable to work... If anyone can help or knows where I can get some help it would be greatly appriciated.
is there anyone who can help me to pay my medical bill.
i am a college student and its getting hard for me to pay my medical bill as well as tutions.
I will really appericate if anyone can help me out.
nba2291@yahoo.com
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